End-of-Life & Difficult Conversations
Palliative vs hospice, withdrawing care, SPIKES, and who decides
Care models, code status, and documents
Palliative care focuses on symptom relief and quality of life and can run alongside curative treatment at any disease stage or prognosis. It is a philosophy of care, not a place or a prognosis threshold. Hospice provides comfort-focused care for terminal illness when the prognosis is 6 months or less if the disease runs its usual course. Patients forgo curative and life-prolonging therapy, and care is covered by the Medicare hospice benefit. Children under 21 on Medicaid or CHIP are the exception: they may receive hospice concurrently with curative treatment (ACA concurrent care provision).
| Feature | Palliative care | Hospice |
|---|---|---|
| Prognosis | Any stage or prognosis | ≤6 months |
| Curative therapy | Concurrent | Forgone; comfort only |
| Example | Metastatic cancer on chemotherapy aimed at cure, needing aggressive symptom control | Patient who stops chemotherapy to focus on comfort at home |
DNR is not "do not treat." DNR (do not resuscitate) and DNI (do not intubate) orders limit only CPR or intubation. The patient still receives every other indicated treatment: antibiotics, analgesia, dialysis, even surgery. Clarify each intervention separately rather than assuming one limit implies another. Before surgery, revisit the DNR order with the patient instead of suspending it automatically.
| Feature | Advance directive (living will, health-care proxy) | POLST / MOLST |
|---|---|---|
| What it is | The patient's own legal document | A portable medical order signed by a clinician |
| Who it is for | Any adult | The seriously ill |
| When it applies | Guides future care if capacity is lost | Now, across all care settings |
| EMS can act on it? | Not directly | Yes, immediately |
Withholding, withdrawing, and futility
Withholding equals withdrawing. Ethically and legally, not starting a treatment (withholding) and stopping one already begun (withdrawing) are equivalent. Any treatment, including a ventilator, dialysis, or a feeding tube providing artificial nutrition and hydration, may be withdrawn when that matches the patient's wishes. Removing a ventilator from a patient whose valid living will refuses life support allows death from the underlying disease; it is not killing and needs no court order. Treat dyspnea and distress proactively during withdrawal.
Clinicians sometimes feel that stopping a treatment is "worse" than never starting it. That discomfort is not an ethical distinction, and it should never deter a time-limited trial of therapy.
Futility. Physicians are not obligated to offer treatment that cannot achieve its physiologic goal. Because "futility" is contentious, involve the family, obtain second opinions, and consult the ethics committee before any unilateral decision, following the institution's process.
Hastening death: double effect, PAD, and euthanasia
Doctrine of double effect. Giving escalating opioids or sedatives to relieve suffering is ethical even if it may foreseeably hasten death, as long as the intent is symptom relief and not death. Fear of hastening death is never a reason to undertreat pain or dyspnea. Document the goal as symptom relief, titrate to comfort, and explain this to families who fear the morphine "will kill him."
| Action | Who acts | Intent | US status |
|---|---|---|---|
| Withdrawing or withholding treatment | Team stops or does not start an unwanted treatment | Honor the patient's wishes | Legal and ethical |
| Double-effect symptom relief | Physician titrates opioids or sedatives | Comfort; death foreseen but unintended | Legal and ethical |
| Physician-assisted death (PAD) | Physician prescribes; a terminally ill, competent patient self-administers | Patient-chosen death | Legal in some states (Oregon Death with Dignity Act, 1997, and others) |
| Euthanasia | Physician administers the lethal agent | Death | Illegal throughout the US |
Breaking bad news: SPIKES
- S: SetupPrivate room, sit down, silence phones, include whom the patient wants.
- P: PerceptionAsk what they already know or suspect.
- I: InvitationAsk how much they want to know; get permission before details.
- K: KnowledgeGive a warning shot, then state the news plainly, without jargon.
- E: EmotionsRespond with empathy; name the emotion and allow silence.
- S: Strategy/SummaryAgree on next steps and check understanding.
Pace the information. Deliver news in small chunks, pause often, and let silence do some of the work. Respond to emotion before adding more facts, because a patient flooded with feeling cannot absorb data.
Culture and disclosure preferences. Some patients and cultures prefer family-centered decisions or non-disclosure of a terminal diagnosis. Rather than assuming, ask the patient: "How do you like to receive medical information?" Honor the answer while preserving the patient's own right to know or to defer to family. When relatives ask you to hide a diagnosis, explore their concerns, then ask the patient how much they want to know. Do not simply agree or refuse.
Who decides: surrogates and standards
- The patientCurrent wishes if capacitated; otherwise prior expressed wishes or advance directive.
- Appointed health-care proxyDurable power of attorney for health care; outranks all family, even the spouse.
- SpouseFirst default surrogate.
- Adult childrenThen parents, then adult siblings, then other relatives.
A brother named years ago as health-care proxy outranks an adult daughter who disagrees. The appointment, not the closeness of kinship, decides.
Substituted judgment first. Surrogates should decide what this patient would have wanted, based on prior statements and values, not what they themselves would choose. Only when the patient's wishes are unknown do they fall back on the best-interest standard (what a reasonable person would choose). When family members disagree, return the conversation to the patient's own voice: "What would he say if he could join us?"